Peek a Boo!!!

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It’s been a while since I’ve written a blog post, and since I’m up and not going back to sleep 😴 , I figured I would get the followers updated information about what the trio have been up to.

For starters, they are back in school 🏫 in person 5 days a week and are loving it. This is week 3 now since the schools reopened in Placer County. The Rocklin Unified School District came out with a pretty comprehensive 29 page reopening guide. It outlines how they will keep students and teachers as safe as possible and the protocols that will be followed should anyone become sick with whatever. Our kids actually now wear face shields with cute animals at the top of the shield to make it fun. Those get wipes down with disinfecting wipes when they get picked up in the afternoons. So far, 3 weeks in and no colds or the usual crud kids come home with at this age.

Ah, yes and the trio turn SIX on October 23rd! The party will not be like it was in previous years thanks to this blasted pandemic. Really tired of this “new abnormal” – it has altered the fabric of social interaction in mind boggling ways 😒

First day of Kindergarten in person!
You can see the personalities in the photo

They have quickly made friends at school, and that is no surprise as they are very outgoing. There is an AM cohort and a PM cohort, and our kids are in the PM cohort and all in the same class, which has 7 students total. So they make up a majority of the class! 😂

Here is a quick summary of the kids’ interests:

Michaela: fashion, gymnastics 🤸‍♀️, art 🖼

Emma: Singing 🎤 (she can carry a tune!!! 🎶), drawing and reading

Christopher: riding bikes 🚲, building things and helping out others with stuff . He will do anything for his sisters, and they take advantage of his height. He is the distributor, handing out vitamins each morning and melatonin at night.

Leader in $50 copay visits to the ER: Christopher (3) 😂😘

They have a new play area out back now that we have had a patio cover built. They play out back for hours, role playing and building things. My wife had other idea for the space, but the kids said otherwise 😂

Kitchenette and Barbie house located outside now. If only I could get them to pick up after themselves 🤔🤭😂

Christopher has been doing speech therapy sessions with Kaiser and now also with the school 🏫. He is doing great and is finally sounding out the “L” in words. He initially slowed down and paused and caught himself and now it is second nature. He charmed his speech therapist at Kaiser my showering her with custom drawings made just for her. That resulted in her giving him more than one M & M treat repeatedly. 🤭😊

Our resident tree 🌳 climber Emma
Christopher is ridiculously tall. You’d never know he was a preemie and the last born. Everyone thinks he is the older brother! 🤷🏾‍♂️😱. He will be taller than his Daddy for sure
Tis the Halloween 🎃 season! A photo from Daddy’s one on one outing with Michaela
Michaela @ The Fountains ⛲️ at Roseville Galleria
The kids enjoyed their first extended beach 🏖 experience after a getaway to Santa Cruz, CA
Emma gliding across the crashing surf in Santa Cruz, CA

Dynamics

The dynamics with our trio have changed significantly. Michaela and Christopher used to be really tight, but now it has shifted to Christopher latching on to Emma and at times excluding Michaela, who has noticed and now called him out for it. Her new favorite word to spell is actually “excluding” 😂.

Michaela and Christopher fight for Emma’s playtime attention. I think she likes being in demand by them both. Oh, to be a “middle child” 😂.

They “rotate” turns spending the weekend at Grandma and Grandpa’s and keep close tabs on who’s turn it is and how long someone stayed (sometimes someone gets a third night). That is when we noticed the dynamic really started to change. Two kids on a weekend is a piece of cake. There is very little fighting and us parents can get adult stuff done and actually think without three flavors of constant demands. It’s not all fun and ice cream and whatever else goes on there in terms of spoiling – there is intensive learning happening when they visit. They read a lot, make crafts, read some more and have plenty of breaks in between.

When they return through, something switches and the organized chaos ensues 😂

Audiobook

The audio book 📖 🎧 project is coming along and I am excited about releasing an audio version of the book soon so it can be listened to. It is being narrated by yours truly 😊

Book

The book has been published for over a year now. The kids don’t quite grasp why they are on a book cover that will be out there for folks to read long after I’m gone, but the story of how they got here remains remarkable.

I created a form so that people can request signed copies of the book. If you’re interested the link is below:

Triple Blessing Book

They rounded off the oddly unsocial summer attending a birthday party 🥳 for a new playmate they had met before COVID-19 pandemic. They wore masks when entering the house but other wise not when outdoors and they had a wonderful time. This little angel is drawn to Emma. Can’t imagine why 😊

Thanks for reading!

Cheers,

M.

Picture Catch Up and Updates

The kids started virtual learning last week and it has been an unmitigated disaster. And it has no end in sight…but I digress 😊

The good in it is that they are less likely to get sick since they are home. The bad parts are that it is very disorganized so far and the parents are all frustrated. Fail to plan, plan to fail, and it seems like the planning wasn’t put into this endeavor and it shows. Ok now I really digress 🤭

Here are some cute recent photos of the trio:

Michaela

They are certainly a handful. But they have adjusted well to this “new abnormal” and they are still enjoying each other’s company (instant playmates).

The dynamics have changed between the three recently. Christopher used to be really tight with Michaela but now he is really tight with Emma and has excluded Michaela at times. We have intervened when we see him do it.

Christopher has been attending speech therapy appointments. He’s progressing nicely but it has been challenging to break some bad habits. As parents it’s hard for us to get him to accept correction as we are mom and dad – par for the course though. The teacher is impressed with how hard he works during their appointments. And he is already starting to win her over with his charm. He even made a gift for her and brought it to her. How cute is that?

Michaela is very bright. Learning really comes easy to her. She sounds out words when reading, can count to 100 and beyond, and is very expressive when drawing during craft time. Kindergarten will be a breeze for her, despite this crazy distance learning setup.

They all get to work with grandma when they go visit, so that has made a tremendous difference. While what happens at grandma’s stays at grandma’s, it’s not all fun, ice cream, treats and pampering – a lot of learning happens.

That’s all folks!

M.

“May” the Force Be With Us

May has been a challenging month. There was a lot going on, with my brother’s birthday (May 9th) mine (May 11th), Mother’s Day and Angelique’s birthday (May 14th) all falling on this month. My father’s birthday falls on May 29th, and he would have been 74.

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A Happy Mother’s Day huge from Christopher to Mommy

The Kiddos

The kids have been keeping us busy. They sleep, they eat a ton, they grow, and grow, and grow some more. I’ve tried to get them out for bike rides and/or walks as much as I can, but they have still found plenty of opportunities to go crazy. Blame it on cabin fever, but as much as they love being outdoors, they are noticing that they have been unable to interact with other kids for quite some time now. It’s kind of weird. My kids love to say hi to folks, and it seems that a lot of parents have instructed their kids to say nothing back and run the other way. So now we’re not only seeing social defiance as people flood back into cities around the globe, but also anti-social distancing taking shape. Everyone is almost immediately skeptical of the other person and almost treats them like they’re infected. This new normal is going to be interesting!

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Up and back down the hill at the park…4 times in the heat!

They long for the day when “the world feels better”, as they like to say. Like me, they thrive on interactions with people, so this is starting to frustrate them being largely confined to their home.

They’ve all had a turn getting their first chiropractic adjustment, which has been great for them.

Grandma showed Michaela how to sew. They sure do love learning!

Kindergarten starts in August at the new school. It’s close enough to where if they cooperate in the morning, they can either walk or we can ride bikes to school with them – we’ll see. In TK, Christopher and Emma were in the same class. In Kindergarten, we were given a choice, and we decided to see how they do with each in their own class. Christopher does whatever his sisters tell him to, and Emma took advantage when they were in the same class, so we’re hoping that this helps them be even more independent of one another. We shall see how it goes.

Christopher was getting speech therapy at the other school before it was all closed down due to COVID, so we lost some momentum in that arena. However, I’ve partnered with my mother in law and we make Powerpoint presentations using our own voice and we have them all practice. I’ve made extra ones for him with words that he can improve on, and I expand upon it as I hear other words to add to the list. They love hearing familiar voices.

I tip my cap to all working parents trying to navigate this shelter in place order. Even with things opening back up, it is challenging as the days seem longer, and, at least in my household, the chaos seems magnified. I think I’ve got the new grey hairs to prove it 🙂

But there’s one constant no matter what: lots of LOVE

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Book sales have picked up in May and people are liking what they’re reading in the book. You can order your copy at http://tripleblessingbook.com

I’m still waiting for the first iPhone/iPad order to come in through the Apple Books app. It is a really fun experience reading the book on an iPad or iPhone through the books app. You can find it by searching for the words Triple Blessing Michael Cave. Be the first to order it through that path!

Cheers,

M.

Competition

Greetings,

The competition is fierce with the Cave Triplets. They compete for the following:

  • Their parents’ attention 🤭
  • TV time
  • A specific color Kindle Fire Kids tablet (note: the second pink one has been missing for the past 2 weeks 🤔)
  • Who gets to spend the night at Grandma and Grandpa’s
  • Who ate their breakfast and dinner the fastest
  • Who can sing 🎤 the best (this is the girls)
  • Who can run the fastest
  • Who gets to go on a play date (lesson learned: a play date with triplets and one other kid is a nightmare and the adults are outnumbered, especially if one of the parents bows out and just drops their kid off! Haha!
  • Who can give Daddy the most drawings to take to work for display
  • Who is the tallest (always has and will be Christopher!)
  • Who can run 🏃‍♀️ 🏃‍♀️ the fastest 🏃 (Michaela by a long shot)
  • Who can write the most words (Michaela)
  • Who can spell the best (Michaela)
  • Who can count the highest (Michaela)
  • Who rides bikes the best (Christopher)
  • Who can talk the most (tie between Michaela and Emma 😂)
  • Who can speak the most articulate (Emma)
  • Who can accumulate the most stars ⭐️ for good behavior (Christopher the week of 3/2 😂)
  • Who is the most helpful (Christopher 🧹)

With the Cave Triplets, superlatives reign supreme 😊

Helping mommy out back
A thirst for learning
Still waiting for Emma’s first tooth to fall out
Too cute!

School Time

Sorry about the delay between posts – things have been extremely busy as of late on multiple fronts (no pun intended).

The kids were entered into the lottery system for Montessori schoolS, but we never heard back, which means that none of their names came up based on the selection criteria. Their best chance to get in was #4 in the list of about 8 selection criteria. What is cool is that had one child been selected, they would have all gotten in automatically. Oh well, next year.

We had registered them for our Plan B option, which is a school in Granite Bay. We found out this week that they all had been accepted and were enrolled, so Angelique brought them in yesterday for assessment.

Each child was brought back to a room alone with a teacher to have a conversation and to see what they know. Angelique got to talk to one of the teachers afterwards and found out that they just had a conversation with the child to see what colors, numbers and shapes they knew and to gauge their speech skills. One of the teachers that spoke with the kids asked if they had ever been to speech therapy. Angelique assumed that the teacher had spoken with Christopher, so she went on to explain that he only started talking regularly when he turned 4 and that while he struggles with certain sounds and words he is catching up quickly.

It turns out that the teacher that asked her that question hasn’t met Christopher, she met one of the girls instead, and if she met Emma she was probably floored that Emma speaks so well. Every words is clearly pronounced and her sentences are complete and well thought out. Then again she has been talking the longest and has the largest vocabulary.

In any case, until school starts the rest of the summer will be dedicated to more learning to prepare them for this transitional kindergarten adventure they will soon embark on. Being born in October, transitional kindergarten was the best option for them. Angelique also asked if they could be kept together. Christopher still needs to see a familiar face, so this should help. Plus one of our neighbors have a 4 year old daughter that the kids are playmates with that will also be attending that school.

I can’t believe they are about to go to school – time is flying! Angelique is ready for a break I’m sure, as they will be in school all day. This will be a test of how strong their bond has become. They are around each other all day and their are certainly alliances, but they will have to look out for one another as there will be new dynamics they will have to content with, and new feelings to navigate based on new experiences.

The kids are very social and make friends easily, so that is good.

Birthdays and Mother’s Day

On Sunday, we got together with family at Grandma and Grandpa’s to celebrate my 40th birthday, along with Mother’s Day and Angelique’s 44th birthday.

The kids are very proud when they trace their own names. It’s so cute.

Last but not least, Michaela has developed a legendary sense of fashion. In the pic below she is actually wearing her mommy’s pants, but somehow pulled it off as a new fashion statement. She could probably walk into high school wearing a Glad bag and nobody would say anything – in fact they might copy her and a new fad would be born!

M.

Four Years, 6 Months In…

We are 4 years and 6 months into this parents of multiples adventure, and things have settled down in terms of the novelty of triplets – that has worn off. Most folks that ask these days still can’t imagine, but people can tell that the kids are a package deal. Most onlookers assume that Christopher is the oldest because he is so much bigger than the girls, but they assume that the girls are twins because they are just about the same size and favor one another at times.

The one thing that has been consistent is that they just keep getting cuter and cuter.

General Updates

Michaela

Miss Michaela is a ridiculously fast runner 🏃‍♀️. She has a really compact stride and just gets everything moving in a hurry. She is also very flexible and is always stretching. Gymnastics might be in her future at some point. She has a Marylou Retton build for those of you who remember the 1984 Los Angeles Olympics. Still bossing the other two around at every turn. Apparently she wants to be the lead singer 🎤 of the band!

Emma

Emma is all about precision and focus. When she is tracing letters or shapes, she takes her time and stays close to the lines. When she is cutting paper with scissors ✂️, she turns everything else out and is completely focused on the task at hand. She is a perfectionist of sorts. I dusted off my guitar 🎸 recently and she was enamored with it so I bought her one.

And Emma is doing outstanding in her swimming 🏊🏽‍♀️ lessons. Just this week she practiced floating on her back and also went underwater and touched the bottom of the pool. She is in her own lesson free of the other two and this works great for her because she doesn’t have to compete with the other two. Emma will most likely be the first to swim we are thinking. She really takes it seriously and talks about it all the time.

Christopher

Christopher is still discovering what he likes. He’s around his sisters a lot so I have been taking them all on excursions with just the two of us so they have their one on one time. He likes to throw balls but hasn’t figured out the technique yet. Interestingly enough though he does some things with his left like throw and kick and everything else with his right, just like me. Michaela is completely left handed but he is a bit of both like me. I’m not sure what sport he will take to but he is our late bloomer and has generally been the last two do everything.

The kids also really enjoy going to visit grandma and grandpa

That’s all, folks!

Busy Little Beavers

It’s been a while since I’ve posted, so I figured I would surface and drop a few lines and photos.

The kids are busy little beavers. Swim lessons, playing hard, you name it and they are in to it 🤭. They are a handful for sure and can quickly deplete your day energy – it is exhausting keeping them entertained!

So here are some cute pics:

You can see from this photo Michaela is the keeper of her siblings ☺️

This is not our puppy. Three kids is enough! 😂

Yep, the sass is real! 🤷🏾‍♂️

Four is a very challenging age. There is a lot more behavior correcting from us and challenging from them. It is a delicate balancing act because it is three different individuals. Michaela and Christopher tend to work together to wreak havoc, but Emma brings her own brand of drama. I find myself having to say No a lot more but also explaining why.

The kids are very social. They hug folks in all kinds of situations and it catches the folks off guard yet is adorable. For example, I took the girls to Pearl House for dinner with family and there were people coming in to pick up to go orders and the girls walked up and just hugged them…haha. I’ve yet to see anyone refuse them ☺️

I’m trying to do more one on one time with them. They really enjoy it and they are completely different kids when solo. I’ve taken Emma to do things and she acts like an only child. Christopher doesn’t say a whole lot but seems to like the freedom. Michaela loves having me all to herself. Usually she tells strangers that I’m her daddy.

Which reminds me – the other day I heard from someone that their school is canceling Daddy/Daughter dances because it’s not fair to the kids that don’t have daddies 🤷🏾‍♂️. I actually am looking forward to those as I’ll have to do them twice each time. I was disappointed to her that a school did that but hey, these are interesting times, aren’t they?

Ok one last cute pic ☺️

The suspenders were broken on the first day 🤦🏾‍♂️

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year!

Sorry for the delayed post, but things have been a tad hectic. For starters, the kids started the year off with a cold. Emma got it first, then she gave it to Michaela, and despite our best efforts to keep him quarantined and in a mask, Christopher got it last as he cannot stay away from his sisters. Then they gave it to my wife, which is standard protocol.

2018 was polished off with a visit from my sister and niece. It was good to see them both, and the kids enjoyed heir visit. And Auntie Mo got them these unique and awesome shirts. A lot of the triplet parents get their kids the standard Thing 1, Thing 2, and Thing 3 shirts. The Cavelets turned it up a notch and took the triplet novelty to a whole new level!

Other than that, the book 📖 I wrote a while ago and had less and less time to polish off as they got older and my free time evaporated should be released in 2019. It is a great book because it chronicles our journey to having triplets and everything that went into it, which was a lot of blood, sweat and tears. As you know I love to write, but in this book I over unique insights into the word of infertility from a husband’s point of view. I touch on a variety of different topics. I wrote the entire book from the heart. Stay tuned for more details on our Triple Blessing!

Don’t forget to follow us on Instagram, where the cutest of the cute pics are usually posted:

And now I will end this update with some more cute pics:

In blogidarity (blogging solidarity),

M.

Field Trip to the Pumpkin 🎃 Patch

On Friday, October 12th, the kids had a field trip to a local pumpkin patch and they had a blast.

Below are the best of the best pics:

Other than that, the kids will be 4 on October 23rd and are progressing nicely. Chatterboxes to the extreme – love it! Thriving in pre-school, as well. Couldn’t be happier with their progress. And best of all, Angelique has 2.5 hours of freedom 3 days a week (most weeks)!

Cr3w Pit Stop

The title is fitting. We’ve been going 200mph lately with these three and I figured I’d make a pit stop to provide updates.

We can start with Christopher, who is obsessed with all things Lightning McQueen. He’s got an impressive selection of Cars-themed underpants, and can usually be seen wearing something featuring either Lightning McQueen himself or Mater. He also usually likes to wind down in the evening watching one of the Cars movies.

Emma

Emma is our resident conversationalist, educating us on what she’s doing and thinking about every step of the way, lecturing her siblings about what’s right and wrong, asking if everyone is ok, and (still) trying to get everyone to do stuff for her. She’s the most reserved of the three, but also the most talkative as she has the clearest command of her impressive library of words. Complete sentences, emotion in her tone, cause/effect, ability to recall memories, you name it, she’s spewed it 😂. For example, if I leave in the morning for work without giving her a hug, kiss, high five, fist pump, and a repeat of any combination of the above, I hear about it first thing when I get home, and Angelique has to hear about it the whole day until I return.

Michaela

Where do I start with this little firecracker? Oh my word she’s going to be a handful as a teenage girl 🙄. She’s very strong willed and smart as a whip. She has “strategies”. She leads with trying to wear you down with nagging hoping you give in – quickly cycles through your typical toddler tactics 😂. With her siblings, she used to just take what she wanted with no pushback – now there is pushback in the form of arguments, fighting and attempts to distract and then take. I’ve seen her try and negotiate, sometimes successfully, and she’s had to adjust to not getting her way with her siblings. Sometimes her go to strategy is to hover like a gnat, chase and when none of that works, meltdown. This past week featured a meltdown over nighttime PJs, where Emma, not Michaela got to wear the Ariel shirt 👚. This resulted in Michaela on a time out outside for several minutes. She started throwing objects at the slider. It got louder and louder, which meant that she was finding things that were heavier and heavier, so I fetched her and we had a little talk 😂. Piece of work, she is.

General Stuff

Potty training was a relatively quick process, with them all being day trained. Very few accidents along the way. The worst of them were due to the occasional desire to not stop what they’re doing and go potty. This has mostly been Christopher. Still that’s all to be expected and we are very proud of them! They tell us that they have to go still and still would like us to escort them, but they are getting increasingly more independent in that area.

It’s quite funny to watch their banter back and forth over pee and poop. They actually talk about it with each other. They like to inspect each other’s efforts in the toilet and congratulate one another. They even go as far as to describe it. This morning Emma invited Christopher to come take a look and he said, “Wow, good job!”, and then flushed it for her. 🤷🏾‍♂️

We ventured to Jelly Belly recently

The result of this trip was that we needed to rethink road entertainment, as the bickering over which movie to watch on the long ride was out of control – nobody was happy! We ended up purchasing 3 kindle fire 🔥 kids edition tablets with headphones so they could each do their own thing. Best. Purchase. Ever. A few weeks in and they have figured them out. The girls both know how to unlock theirs, and Christopher has filled his up with Cars stuff and monster trucks. It has helped them improve their fine motor skills as well. They are also much better at problem solving. Michaela has somehow figured out to install her own apps. We haven’t put time limits on them yet but that will come one day I’m sure.

They all start pre-Kindergarten in the fall at something called Adventure Club in Roseville. We evaluated a few of the schools that had availability, made our selection, and enrolled them. It starts in September. They are all very well socialized already, and with as much as they apparently know already I’m sure they will be fine and will thrive with the new flavors of structure they will be exposed to. And Angelique will get a much needed breather for a few hours a day, Monday, Wednesday and Fridays! I commend Angelique for her efforts with the kids. Managing 3 demanding evolving toddlers is no joke and it’s tough to stay sane! Anyone interested in basking in the madness? 🙋🏾‍♂️

She’s befriended a few mothers with young tots in our little community here and is a mentor of sorts to one with a newborn. After all, Angelique’s been there, done that times three, so she’s got the experience and wisdom! Everyone has a different motherhood journey, but it’s nice to be able to pass along tips and offer support to someone just embarking on their own journey.

Identical twins and fraternal triplets in the same Jeep!

The more things change, the more things stay the same…

Thanksfor reading!M.