October Updates

The kids are settling into their school routine. I have had a few opportunities to take them to school and it is very cool to see Emma and Christopher, who are in the same class, say goodbye to us in the morning and meet up with their classmates. They are getting used to the routine and structure. They are learning a lot on school. Michaela can spell her name and sounds out each letter of the alphabet when tracing the letters. They have also quickly made a few networks of friends and routinely rattle off new names of friends each day. They are starting to go on after school play dates.

They also just turned FIVE years old! Can’t believe it has been 5 years already.

The requests for play dates after school is totally new for us. As is the mass blasts to the entire class or birthday party invites. Given that that Michaela is in a separate class, we have decided to not let them go to parties that only one child was invited to – that will have to happen eventually but not now. We can defer navigating the feelings of disappointment that are sure to follow until Kindergarten.

Emma has been making a lot of progress with words and can draw her name. She loves to learn.

The kids love their new neighborhood. They love going out and exploring and saying hi to new people. Catches everyone off guard!

M.

We’ve Been Busy!

To say we’ve been busy is a bit of an understatement. So many changes! For example:

School

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The kids have been enjoying school. Michaela is in her own class, the Honeybees, while Emma and Christoper are in the same Sea Turtles class. They enjoy (and we think prefer) the hot lunches.

We Moved
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We moved from Granite Bay to Rocklin. The move took 8.5 hours and 2 runs for the movers. The kids stayed at their grandparents’ for 3 days while we got situated. They got spoiled…haha! But that was the first time that they spent a night away from both their parents. The key was letting them fall asleep and not waking them up to collect them and take them home. Moving sucks. So much stuff and what seems like not enough time. Plus it was really hot the day we moved.

Book Launch

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My Book was released on August 27th and that has been a fun experience. The eBook launched on September 17th and is in being widely distributed. I am getting a lot of requests for author signed copies, which is wonderful. It will take some time for our story to get out there, but there is no book out there like it – all it will take is the right opportunity for the book to catch on and go viral. Who doesn’t like seeing cute kids on the cover?

Settling In

We had a lot of stuff having had at one point a 5 bedroom, 3 bathroom house, so it has been a process to scale down into a smaller home. We’ve sold some stuff that doesn’t quite fit or look right in this home, and have also re-introduced items that work better with this floor plan. As a result, it is really starting to feel like home.

The kids have their own bedrooms, and, miraculously, have been sleeping in them most of the night by themselves. Lately we are noticing that they are getting up and going to sleep with a sibling. Michaela has been leading the way in this arena, invading both Emma and Christopher’s space. Both have commented on it. It’s been going well though. Emma really likes having her own room she keeps it clean and doesn’t exactly like the others in her space. We’re working on helping her be more accommodating.

So, yeah, we’ve been a little busy!

M.

 

Book Release!

The Book, Triple Blessing, A Father’s Story of Infertility, Hope and Love, was released on August 27th, 2019.

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The book is available on Amazon and can be purchased at this link.

Signed by the author book plates are available by registering your name and mailing address here.

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Below is a photo of me with the book. Purely coincidental that my tie colors matched my book!

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Don’t forget to pick up your copy! It’s being distributed worldwide!

And a special Thank You goes to my wife Angelique, whose extraordinary efforts helped bring these beautiful children into our world!

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Best,

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Michael Cave

Author – Triple Blessing

 

 

Been Busy!

Greetings –

It was a very busy month of July. A majority of the time was spent making sure everything continued to progress with the new house in Rocklin like getting into escrow, checking off the various milestones like inspection, a TON of paperwork, and annoying loan stuff. In between all of that, the kids somehow managed to grow more and get even cuter:

And the kids all checked off a major milestone on the same day, with Christopher being the first to do something before the other two for the first time like EVER: riding bikes ๐Ÿšฒ without training wheels!

August is proving that it will be a month of new beginnings. There are a variety of changes on the horizon. The kids start transitional kindergarten this month, and we are trying to get them switched from the school they are enrolled in right here in Granite Bay to one in Rocklin. And obviously we will be moving at the end of the month once escrow closes. Angelique has taken on trying to deep clean our current home ๐Ÿก as she goes. Somehow she is doing this and packing along the way with 3 very demanding chicklets ๐Ÿฃ chirping at her heels all day long. How she is not completely mad by now is beyond me – perhaps she sees the light at the end of the tunnel and can sense that she will have a moment to exhale once they are in school for most of the day.

Swim lessons have concluded at SwimLabs so we will be taking opportunities to work with the kids one on one at the CalFit gym pool (it is a 2 minute drive from our soon to be new home) to build confidence.

The greatest challenge lately has been dividing our attention between the 3. They all want me to sit next to them at the same time (that’s impossible), watch them play on their tablet, play with them, etc. It is tough to tell them that they have to take turns but it has to be done. So yes we set timers โฒ for stuff like this. The challenges parents of multiples face are definitely unique, that’s for sure! Even one on one days have gotten complicated. They fight over whose turn it is to spend the day with just me, and even fight over who gets to open (and close) the garage each morning when I leave for work. It’s wild!

And my book, Triple Blessing is still on track to be released at the end of September. Front and back cover are being finalized and just waiting to review round 2 of the interior layout.

I bought a children’s book from this the person that recommended the author services company I am using:

It is a children’s book about triplets. The author is a mother of triplets herself. And her first name is spelled exactly the same way as my daughter’s! Now that’s what I call a sign. Our paths were meant to cross in the Triplets Facebook group, which produced the recommendation I acted on and jumpstarts the process to publish my own book.

It will most certainly be an action-packed August!

Cheers,

M.

The Latest Personality Profiles

Greetings,

I have always enjoyed studying people, so I figured I would turn the lens at our kids and share my assessment of their current personalities:

Michaela

Michaela is a real firecracker ๐Ÿงจ. Very, very talkative, inquisitive and has a big imagination. She usually wakes up talking and it is a play by play of whatever is cooking in her head, whether it makes sense or not. She believes that she is the center of the universe, and is very dominant around her siblings. She is very social around other kids, often introducing herself and just jumping right in to the mix, especially with older kids. She is very strong willed and tends to be comfortable trying to repeat her demands to see if she can get her way. She loves one on one time and showing off her parents. She tends to obsess over things like specific toys or something she wants to do – she is relentless to boot.

Emma

Emma is very sensitive and usually spends a majority of the day cycling through a variety of emotions and whining about whatever is most convenient ๐Ÿ˜‚. She tries to maximize her space between her siblings. She does not like it when they touch her. She still chooses carefully when she mixes it up with them, and it is usually at the worst times like when it is time to wind down for the evening. Emma loves to engage in very well thought out conversations and is very serious when she is talking, approaching every response with purpose and nodding her head with confidence. People that talk with her are always amazed with how clearly she speaks. Emma is our resident drama queen. She is very particular about how she likes things, especially food and drink. For example, she only likes her waffles with butter and no syrup and they can’t be toasted too much ๐Ÿ˜‚. Gonna be hilarious when we let her order from restaurants ๐Ÿ˜‚. She also only likes plain water with no lemon in it. Crumbs on the couch hurt Emma, as well as the breeze in the outdoors ๐Ÿ˜‚. She also doesn’t like loud noises – actually none of them do, and this is probably a product of their time in the NICU. She loves to tell us how she feels, especially when she’s tired. She is often the first to pass out each night. She has a very sensitive sense of smell, and is always questioning various smells. Emma is very honest but also is a terrible liar, often blaming others for mischief she clearly brewed up. Let’s just say she is comfortable in her own skin ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿพโ€โ™‚๏ธ

Christopher

Christopher’s first pediatric assessment indicated that he was a very shy and timid boy who was very attached to his mother. Four years and 9 months later and this is still very much the case. Christopher is very shy and usually doesn’t introduce himself and often blushes when asked to. On the 4th of July I took him to buy fireworks ๐ŸŽ‡ and afterwards we went to Target to buy him a toy and he blushed when I took the photo of him. He purses up his lips and smiles when he is acting shy.

Christopher loves building things and lining things up in an orderly fashion.

He is also really good at solving puzzles on his tablet, especially timed challenges. He loves one on one time with me and generally doesn’t say much when we are out and about. I think he is left handed like me but he does some things with his right hand like me. He’s not showing any signs at this time that he is very athletic. He is still very clumsy and his motor skills are catching up to the girls. As they say, though, girls tend to advance faster than boys.

Together

Together, they are quite a handful. Three different versions of demands starting from when they wake up until when they start passing out in the evening. The ever present ability to work in threes to get their way. Instant playmates with an unbreakable bond. Very social kids that make new friends easily. Michaela and Christopher are pretty close and tend to get in trouble the most. You can see their closeness in the pictures too. But Michaela is clearly the heart and soul of the combo:

And of course the kids love their visits from Grandma and Grandpa

Moving

We have enjoyed living in our home in Granite Bay for the past 3 years. The kids were very little when we moved in March of 2016, and they’ve grown a lot the past 3 years. They have enjoyed the neighborhood – mostly friendly neighbors, a few kids, and a park within walking distance. It has also been nice being so close to the Kaiser hospital they were born at in Roseville, as well as its emergency room. The community is gated, close to shopping, and has been very safe. However, the owner of the home is ready to sell, so the time has come for us to find a place of our own to call home.

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We officially start our home search Sunday afternoon, but will likely be also checking out a few open houses on Saturday as well. There are so many homes on the market. Our list was quite long, so we’ve had to start trimming it. Schools are extremely important, which is causing us to take a really close look at homes in Rocklin. There’s also El Dorado Hills in play, as well as Roseville, Auburn and Carmichael. Auburn has this attractive gated lake community called Lake of the Pines. It is up in the foothills, but when we went there to visit everyone loved it. Need to do more in depth research into the school situation. We have a strong list of things we’re looking for in a home. Some things are must haves like an open floor plan and even 1 story believe or not, and others are nice to haves like pools and cul de sac.

In any case, this is a fun time for the family as there is so much to choose from. Packing hasn’t been fun as there are now boxes everywhere and efficient destroying machines hovering nearby at all times. The most interesting thing about all of the homes on the market is that they have been sitting there for weeks, and we’re starting to see a few price cuts along the way – perhaps there’s room to negotiate as a result. Rates are super low, too, so there’s that. The kids start transitional kindergarten in Granite Bay on August 14th, so it is likely that August will be a chaotic month full of change and transition. But eventually the dust will settle and life will get back to normal. Actually, maybe not – late September will be my book launch! I’m really excited about that, as it has been a pleasure seeing everything come together.

What else is new – the kids have been growing and continue to evolve. We had family from back east out in Lake Tahoe for a week, but unfortunately the kids had bad colds and were too sick to travel. One of the Kindle Fire tables got a cracked screen, so we got to take advantage of the worry-free warranty where you get a free replacement within the first 2 years. So it was interesting seeing the kids negotiate (or not) with each other to make 2 with only 2 tablets. We actually use the Amazon Echo dot’s timers to get them to share stuff.

Book Deets (Details)

Greetings,

This update is to report progress on the book.

I am proud of how it turned out. The manuscript is being finalized and I will be approving it shortly. And the cover ๐Ÿ˜

I am enjoying the marketing aspect of this. It is a chance to tap in to my creative side, and leverage social media in the process to get the word out. I’m always short on time, so I have to be creative and efficient!

Thanks to all of you who have supported me on this journey. Some have you have been on the train a while, while others have hopped on at stops along the way as we have gotten to know each other. The year 2019 has been all about expanding connections and getting to know people better. I’ve really enjoyed it!

I will continue to create mini presentations highlighting photos of our incredible journey using Adobe Spark. If you have my seen the presentation yet, here it is. I will find the best of the best photos, and tell a story with each one. All of this is a part of the marketing for the book. The book isn’t about making money – it is about telling the story and hopefully shedding light on a very common issue of infertility and giving those still struggling with it hope. Also, it is my hope that the book demonstrates just how deep the rabbit hole ๐Ÿ•ณ can go.

Failure, humility and determination all took on new and unexpected meanings over the course of our journey. When you go through something like this, your resolve is tested. You question your purpose and your ability to influence outcomes. Your brain ๐Ÿง  gets rewired.

Anyway…๐Ÿ˜Š

My wife Angelique took the kids to a trial gymnastics ๐Ÿคธโ€โ™€๏ธ lesson. Michaela was a natural on most of the equipment, especially the balance beam and the rings. I think I will enroll just her and will have that be our standing one on one activity. It is time to have them be even more independent of one another.

We will figure out what to get the other two involved in.

Swim lessons are still in the mix for all three.

We are also gearing up to buy a house this summer.

We have a short family trip coming up in a few weeks. We will be meeting up with other family members in Zephyr Cove in Nevada. It will be the first time the kids leave California, and an opportunity for them to meet some more cousins on my side of the family – there are a few newer family members. Will post photos after that get together happens. Looking forward to it!

Cheers ๐Ÿฅ‚

M

School Time

Sorry about the delay between posts – things have been extremely busy as of late on multiple fronts (no pun intended).

The kids were entered into the lottery system for Montessori schoolS, but we never heard back, which means that none of their names came up based on the selection criteria. Their best chance to get in was #4 in the list of about 8 selection criteria. What is cool is that had one child been selected, they would have all gotten in automatically. Oh well, next year.

We had registered them for our Plan B option, which is a school in Granite Bay. We found out this week that they all had been accepted and were enrolled, so Angelique brought them in yesterday for assessment.

Each child was brought back to a room alone with a teacher to have a conversation and to see what they know. Angelique got to talk to one of the teachers afterwards and found out that they just had a conversation with the child to see what colors, numbers and shapes they knew and to gauge their speech skills. One of the teachers that spoke with the kids asked if they had ever been to speech therapy. Angelique assumed that the teacher had spoken with Christopher, so she went on to explain that he only started talking regularly when he turned 4 and that while he struggles with certain sounds and words he is catching up quickly.

It turns out that the teacher that asked her that question hasn’t met Christopher, she met one of the girls instead, and if she met Emma she was probably floored that Emma speaks so well. Every words is clearly pronounced and her sentences are complete and well thought out. Then again she has been talking the longest and has the largest vocabulary.

In any case, until school starts the rest of the summer will be dedicated to more learning to prepare them for this transitional kindergarten adventure they will soon embark on. Being born in October, transitional kindergarten was the best option for them. Angelique also asked if they could be kept together. Christopher still needs to see a familiar face, so this should help. Plus one of our neighbors have a 4 year old daughter that the kids are playmates with that will also be attending that school.

I can’t believe they are about to go to school – time is flying! Angelique is ready for a break I’m sure, as they will be in school all day. This will be a test of how strong their bond has become. They are around each other all day and their are certainly alliances, but they will have to look out for one another as there will be new dynamics they will have to content with, and new feelings to navigate based on new experiences.

The kids are very social and make friends easily, so that is good.

Birthdays and Mother’s Day

On Sunday, we got together with family at Grandma and Grandpa’s to celebrate my 40th birthday, along with Mother’s Day and Angelique’s 44th birthday.

The kids are very proud when they trace their own names. It’s so cute.

Last but not least, Michaela has developed a legendary sense of fashion. In the pic below she is actually wearing her mommy’s pants, but somehow pulled it off as a new fashion statement. She could probably walk into high school wearing a Glad bag and nobody would say anything – in fact they might copy her and a new fad would be born!

M.

Four Years, 6 Months In…

We are 4 years and 6 months into this parents of multiples adventure, and things have settled down in terms of the novelty of triplets – that has worn off. Most folks that ask these days still can’t imagine, but people can tell that the kids are a package deal. Most onlookers assume that Christopher is the oldest because he is so much bigger than the girls, but they assume that the girls are twins because they are just about the same size and favor one another at times.

The one thing that has been consistent is that they just keep getting cuter and cuter.

General Updates

Michaela

Miss Michaela is a ridiculously fast runner ๐Ÿƒโ€โ™€๏ธ. She has a really compact stride and just gets everything moving in a hurry. She is also very flexible and is always stretching. Gymnastics might be in her future at some point. She has a Marylou Retton build for those of you who remember the 1984 Los Angeles Olympics. Still bossing the other two around at every turn. Apparently she wants to be the lead singer ๐ŸŽค of the band!

Emma

Emma is all about precision and focus. When she is tracing letters or shapes, she takes her time and stays close to the lines. When she is cutting paper with scissors โœ‚๏ธ, she turns everything else out and is completely focused on the task at hand. She is a perfectionist of sorts. I dusted off my guitar ๐ŸŽธ recently and she was enamored with it so I bought her one.

And Emma is doing outstanding in her swimming ๐ŸŠ๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ lessons. Just this week she practiced floating on her back and also went underwater and touched the bottom of the pool. She is in her own lesson free of the other two and this works great for her because she doesn’t have to compete with the other two. Emma will most likely be the first to swim we are thinking. She really takes it seriously and talks about it all the time.

Christopher

Christopher is still discovering what he likes. He’s around his sisters a lot so I have been taking them all on excursions with just the two of us so they have their one on one time. He likes to throw balls but hasn’t figured out the technique yet. Interestingly enough though he does some things with his left like throw and kick and everything else with his right, just like me. Michaela is completely left handed but he is a bit of both like me. I’m not sure what sport he will take to but he is our late bloomer and has generally been the last two do everything.

The kids also really enjoy going to visit grandma and grandpa

That’s all, folks!

Package D3al

We are rapidly approaching my favorite season: SPRING

Our trio spend huge lumps of time around each other. They are basically in each other’s faces all day long 7 days a week. This means that they are used to seeing one another, but can (and usually do) often encroach on each other’s personal space.

Michaela is the queen of commandeering. Whatever someone else has, at some point she decides she wants and begins obsessing over it and can throw a fit if she doesn’t get it from them. Funny how a toy can be forgotten about for months, but when one of the other two discover it and play with it she suddenly wants it. Classic sibling rivalry. Now, when they have these breaks from one another they usually ask where the missing sibling is and are always happy to be reunited.

Emma really cherishes her personal space. She has always been perfectly fine playing by herself or being alone in another room while the other two play. I think she likes the break from Michaela and Christopher. They are a handful as they are very playful and can be relentless in their pursuit of mischief and therefore quite annoying.

The weather was horrible for a long stretch with rainy and cool days dominating the recent weeks, so it was challenging keeping the trio entertained as being outdoors was rarely an option.

They have swim lessons once a week and that had been going great. They are getting more confident in the water. Michaela and Christopher are in the same group and Emma is in a different group. It works out better and staves off the competitive dynamics that dominated the landscape when we had them in the same group…for one lesson ๐Ÿ˜‚

Age 4 has certainly been challenging. There is a fierce competition for our attention, and it is getting more and more difficult to divide equally as now that they can talk and express themselves we understand better how the feel. For example, the last few weeks I have been doing extensive one on one time with each child. They absolutely love spending the day with just me and them. They don’t have to compete for my attention, and are free to pursue their personal interests. However, it is still competitive as the others don’t quite understand why they can’t go too. I hear a lot of “It’s my turn!” and “I’m next, I’m older!” (๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚). Sometimes I have to turn around and take the next child somewhere just to stave off the epic meltdowns. I have even heard them deny that it was their turn the last time and be dead serious about it! The challenges parents of multiples face are definitely unique, but I absolutely cherish our reality!

I’ve noticed that the kids are completely different people when they are away from each other. Michaela is much more talkative about her surroundings and she is very interested in showing me off to the world as her daddy. Emma mostly relishes being free of her siblings and likes to plan out what we will do when it is “just us”.

Christopher is very reserved and doesn’t say much on the ride to wherever we go but enjoys playing at parks and exploring new things and places.

The last two times we have gone out we have explored new places to buy Filipino food. He likes pan de sal and pancit โ˜บ๏ธ

They love riding around in the electric car too. Part of the one on one day routine is to go charge the car and hang out at The Fountains โ›ฒ๏ธ in Roseville while the car charges. We have been packing boxes ๐Ÿ“ฆ in preparation for a possible summer move and I’ve rented a storage unit, so we have been making weekend runs to the storage unit to store the boxes. I take one child when I go and they help load and unload the car. They insist on stacking the boxes themselves, and I give them the light boxes not marked FRAGILE.

We also recently did two tours of Montessori schools and entered them into the lottery for acceptance. There are a few priority criteria they have to move through to get selected, but fortunately for us, if one child gets in, all the siblings get in too โ˜บ๏ธ. Any way we shake it, we consume 3 spots. They will be in Transitional Kindergarten due to the fact that they have October birthdays and will be 5 then. We’ve learned that there are 29 available spots for TK. Fingers crossed that they get in as we really feel they will really thrive under the Montessori framework. We also submitted paperwork to enroll them in a nearby TK school as a plan B. My wife is due for a break – they are really a handful! ๐Ÿคญ

I truly enjoy the time with them. And I’ve seen some sad things this week that prove you never really know how much time you have with someone. A few months ago I saw a post of a proud triplet mom who had posted a picture of her 26 year old triplets together again. Two of the siblings were fitness fanatics and posed in the photo flexing their muscles. The ones that were flexing were brother and sister – the siblings were comprised of two boys and one girl.

Yesterday in the Triplets Facebook group, the mom had posted the same pic her trio, but was letting the community know that her daughter had passed away last Sunday. I was shocked ๐Ÿ˜ฎ. She was so beautiful and they all seemed so happy. I wondered what had happened. She had only said that she (26) and her 21 year old cousin had been killed in a tragic accident. I poured through the comments but still no details. For some reason I felt compelled to do a Google search. I really wish I hadn’t done that ๐Ÿ˜•. The search revealed that the deaths were being investigated as a murder-suicide. Her 21 year old cousin was an police officer. It appears he killed her and then took his own life. Nobody knows why, but at a parent, this type of news must be absolutely devastating. You don’t want to outlive your own children. Her pain must be unimaginable.

Hug your children and tell them that you love them often. And if they are older and you haven’t talked to them in a while, call them – we truly never know what this life has in store for us. ๐Ÿ˜ž